We’ve been talking about  Intimacy in the Christian and How then should we behave. As I started this series, it was vital for me to answer the most common questions I get asked. Today, I am addressing an aspect that can be uncomfortable to discuss yet puts a strain on many Christian Marriages. Today’s topic: Pornography.

Remember when we discussed how we should behave, and I mentioned that we were to put 1 Peter 2:9 into action? Let’s examine this verse again.

1 Peter 2:9 But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light;

Pornography has no part in the Christian Marriage. Let us be aware and alert, pornography is part of the darkness spoken of in this passage. 

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Pornography will undermine the foundation of your marriage. Remember, Proverbs 19:14? A prudent wife is from the Lord. Let’s take a look at the definition of prudent, “acting with or showing care and thought for the future.” We must consider what we are allowing in this area of intimacy. 

When I talk to women about this subject, finding common ground on the devastating impact of pornography isn’t the issue. The issue most often comes down to the fact that either the husband or the wife (Yes, wives struggle in this area too!) are struggling with the shame and addiction of pornography. It has impacted their relationship to such a depth that often the very foundation of their marriage is crumbling! 

Many times they know that what they are doing is not shewing “forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light;”  Yet, they are unclear how to develop thoughts that are Biblically accurate. 

First, let me say that if it is your spouse that struggles in this area, there is Hope! 

God reminds us that all sin leads to death. You can pray for your spouse and this issue of pornography just like you would want your spouse to pray for your struggle with gossip, slothfulness, or not honoring your parents. 

Secondly, I would encourage you to show respect for your husband while you remain pure in your conduct. Even unsaved husbands can be won to the Lord, not by our words, but by our behavior. We have a great responsibility to the Lord for how we behave! 

1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct

Lastly, I want to encourage you to be patient. Overcoming sin in our lives can take time. It’s God that does the restoration work. We know we can’t do anything good on our own. It is God alone that will complete the good work that He has begun. We must be confident in His ability and His timing!

Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: 

Mrs. Joseph Wood: Pornography in the Christian Marriage

Five Tips To Overcome Pornography Within The Christian Marriage: 

  1. Confess! You must first acknowledge that pornography is a sin.
  2. Create a system of accountability in your life with people you can trust and be transparent with
  3. Remove all temptation as you can, but remember attractions will always present themselves. It’s how we respond to those temptations that is critical! Make sure you turn the other way! 
  4. Read, Study, and Apply the Word every day. It is only God’s Word that is promised not to return void! 
  5. Repent day by day! If you fall, don’t stay there.. get back up and strive to do right! 

I know that in the midst of the struggle, our confidence can tire. Often these personal struggles remain unspoken until they have taken a toll on the marriage altogether. Don’t isolate yourself!

Hear me clearly, “Do not let the shame of sin keep you from overcoming sin!”

You are not alone!! Dear friend, do not grow weary in well doing! Get connected with women who will support you to love your husband in a way that shews forth His praises. 

Do you have specific questions about this topic? Then take a moment to jot me a note. I would love to hear from you and answer questions as the Lord leads.

Because of His Love, 

Mrs. Joseph Wood 



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