Comments on: Intimacy in the Christian Marriage Part 3

By: Mrs. Joseph Wood

Mrs. Joseph Wood — Thu, 19 Nov 2015 16:06:42 +0000

In reply to Janine. Thank you so much for sharing, Janine!!! <3

By: Janine

Janine — Tue, 17 Nov 2015 07:39:44 +0000

As a woman of God, a wife of a former addict, a sinner myself and birth worker I have seen first-hand how devastating wasting (we call it that because it shows that the reason it’s wrong is because we are wasting this precious gift of sexuality and passion that God gave us when it is not directed at the one God created for us)… can be to everyone connected to the victim (aren’t we all victims of victim). I struggled with guilt and pain mixed with anger and wanting to run away for a long time until we found http://www.reclaimsexualhealth.com That program was such a Godsend for both of us (we both worked through it together– I have unhealthy addictions also, sugar for example) and it really opened our minds to the reasons why our brains need stimulation, how they “hook” you and how to use the brain for good and to retrain it… It was very enlightening and improved our lives in every aspect. I highly recommend it. With lots of prayer, patience, forgiveness, and love. God led us to victory and now we are so incredibly happily married with no issues of trust or wasting– Praise God!!

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 07 Jun 2014 13:14:41 +0000

In reply to Cynthia L. Cynthia, Intimacy has nothing to do with pornography. An addict may act out the same night as having sex with his wife. Having sex with your husband will not keep him from being tempted with porn.

By: Liz

Liz — Sat, 07 Jun 2014 13:12:01 +0000

Sexual addiction can be devastating on a marriage. Remaining in marriage with an unfaithful spouse is not always advisable. And porn is cheating on your spouse. Every time a spouse fantasizes about sex with someone outside their marriage they are committing adultery. In most cases sexual addiction begins with porn and progresses to more extreme forms of acting out as the addict is always looking for something new to reach that chemical high. Recovery from sex/porn addiction is possible but requires accountability and addressing the underlying emotional issues the addict is masking by acting out. Utilize programs such as SA or Celebrate Recovery. Research sex/porn addiction and groups or therapies that focus on recovery and sobriety. But women do not have to remain silent while their husband is unfaithful to them and exposes their homes and families to filth.

By: Katherine

Katherine — Sat, 07 Jun 2014 02:56:12 +0000

Thank for this post. It had been a struggle for both my husband and I. When I was younger I was molested by the son of my babysitter at the time. It had an impact on my life that was difficult to understand. So I grew up with the fascination of sex. Thankfully God was with me and I knew to wait for my husband and I would pray for him..not knowing who he was yet. My husband being a man had struggled with it. It came to light the 3rd week of our marriage. He couldn’t live with the guilt so he told me about it. Since then we have been praying together. After over a year now of marriage we have become stronger. And the struggle is no longer there. Thank you again.

By: Cynthia L

Cynthia L — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 23:47:55 +0000

Really interesting information. I think a couple should be intimate to stay close.

By: Merissa @ Little House Living

Merissa @ Little House Living — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 17:26:53 +0000

This isn’t something I have personal experience with but I have seen friend’s marriages struggle because of this issue. Thanks for this post that I can pass along to them when they are struggling!