Intimacy in the Christian marriage must be a subject I get asked about most. There’s a good reason for that. It is such a vital aspect of marriage and yet, the “older women” who were to teach the younger women how to love their husbands, and children have remained silent on the topic. Their silence has caused many to seek council apart from those that know Truth. We need to step up and help in this area. No matter how “old” we are, we are probably an “older” woman to someone.
So let’s see if I can help bring our attention back to Truth for the answers on intimacy in the Christian marriage.
There are so many personal factors that go into a subject like this. It usually’s best as a conversation one on one with each other. I will have to answer “generally” and pray that God uses this post to help you experience the beauty of intimacy that He created!
Intimacy: God is not silent.
God cares deeply about His people experiencing the pleasure of intimacy between husband and wife.
We were created to glorify God, and while it may seem odd to some or uncomfortable at first, we most definitely can glorify God in the marriage bed.
So, what does God have to say on this subject? How do we glorify Him in this area of our lives?
God has plenty to say!
It all started in Genesis!
Genesis 1: 27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., Ge 1:27–28). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., Ge 2:18). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.
Intimacy in the Christian Marriage
Intimacy in the Christian Marriage is not merely a physical act. It’s about a spiritual and emotional connection as well!
God established the union of marriage between a man and woman from the very beginning. It is God’s plan for one man and one woman to be joined in marriage. This marriage is the establishment of a family unit in which children will be born and raised for His glory. However, that wasn’t his only purpose of creating this union! If you examine Scripture, you’ll see that God provides comfort through intimacy in marriage (Isaac comforted by Rebekah. Genesis 24:67). Other passages talk to us about the delight of intimacy (Song of Solomon 7:6-12), and others warn us of neglecting this area of our marriage.
1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency
The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2009). (Electronic Edition of the 1900 Authorized Version., 1 Co 7:5). Bellingham, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.
Our faith should be seen in the intimate moments with our spouse.
God created us to “know” each other through this intimate act of marriage on a regular basis. So then, how does it become something beautiful and Holy when the World seems to have made it merely an act of human instinct with no rules, no boundaries, and its only purpose is self-satisfaction?
Friends intimacy becomes a Holy experience only when we direct our hearts to God. Yes, even thru the intimate moments between husband and wife.
When we turn off the lights, we don’t turn off our faith.
I have spoken to far too many women who have neglected this Truth in their marriage. For one reason or another, they find themselves incorporating the World’s ideas in their bedroom only to see themselves heartbroken and their marriages falling apart. Friends, we must allow God to rule our hearts and thoughts especially within the intimacy of our marriages.
Boy, there’s a lot for us to talk about on this topic isn’t there?! Make sure you send your specific questions to me, and I will include them anonymously in this series.
Here are a few questions that have already come in that we’ll be tackling in this series.
- “How are we to behave in this most intimate time of marriage?”
- “What is okay and what’s not okay in the marriage bed?” (This is probably the question that is asked of me most.)
- “How do I help my husband who struggles with pornography?” (Second most asked question)
- What if I don’t “feel” like being intimate with my husband?”
Are these a few of the questions you’ve had? Do you have other questions? Make sure you send me a message, and I will try to include your question in our series as well.
Join me for Intimacy in the Christian Marriage Part 2 on Monday.
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood
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